Married Without Children

This is my favorite part of the marriage ;).  My husband and I have been married for 3 years, but prior to that we dated/cohabited for 3.5 years.  In our time together we’ve really learned what make the other tick.  Not only emotionally, but sexually too *wink wink*

Back to the emotional part.  That is the key to having great sex.  Well at least in my book.  If you feel comfortable around your man, you will perform better.  The Hubs and I have become such good friends in addition to lovers that we are really connected.  Sometimes a simple conversation will parlay into…  Well you know.  We like to keep it fun and exciting.  We know what each other likes because of one simple thing.  We ask.  Communication is key.  We love to please each other and knowing how the other ticks and what makes them tock makes it even more fun.

I love sex.  The Hubs loves sex.  What’s my biggest complaint.  Not enough sex.  As a dual income family we both lead busy lives.  The Hubs was even in school for a while.  Sometimes he works nights, sometimes he works days, sometimes I have other obligations.  It becomes crazy-insane to have spontaneous sex.  Sometimes I’ll just ask and it’s 50-50.  If it’s not too late and we’re not too tired then it’s a go.

What then is the solution?  Plan it.  Seriously.  We have to plan everything in our lives.  From work schedules to dinner parties.  We try for once or twice a week, but during the holidays it’s usually less.  I mean last weekend we had 2 dinner parties alone to go to.  How on earth can we:

• Go to work
• Visit family
• Keep the house
• Run errands
• Keep up with exercise
• Have our regular everyday dinners
• Go to the store
• Fix things in the house

And have time for spontaneous sex.  So take my word for it.  If you want to get some, make it part of your schedule.  And you can make it a priority.  If you can allow for an hour 4 times a week to hit the gym then you can allow one hour once a week to bond with your man.  Trust me.  It keeps you close to your man and keeps the marriage awesome.

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